The journey of two guys ( with one cat & lot of great friends) trying to get through life and expand their family through surrogacy in Thailand.

Saturday, April 26, 2014

Righty Vs Lefty

I’ve been a little terrified to write this post. I’m not sure why exactly.

Maybe it was because last time Frankie and I announced wonderful news, we ended up really let down.

Maybe it was because I thought I might end up jinxing us.

Maybe it was because I was afraid of Willow attacking me if she read it.

This concern isn't without precedent. Willow has met one baby so far. She proceeded to circle said baby keeping at least 5 feet between her and the terrifying non-mobile infant. At one point, the baby farted, Willow jumped and puffed up… and the mandatory distance became around 7 feet. I can only imagine what she will do when there is a permanent baby in our house. Let alone two babies.

Indeed….we’ve now had two ultrasounds, and both have shown the same results. Two little heartbeats.

The first scan was a little concerning, as one little heartbeat was only going at 76 bpm, which is pretty slow. But that same little nugget had a heartbeat of 126 bpm on the last scan, so we’re feeling much better about that.

We started by referring to them as nugget 1 and nugget 2…but then Frankie became concerned that it might make one fetus feel inferior to the other. I suggested nugget Alpha and nugget Omega because I figured that the end of the alphabet is just as important as the beginning of the alphabet….but Frankie saw things differently.

So we’ve now taken to referring to the little sacs of fetal joy as “Righty” and “Lefty”.

Righty is appropriately situated on the right of its sibling, has a heartbeat of 126 bpm, and a CRL of .69cm. Lefty is doing well so far with a heartbeat of 138 bpm and a CRL of .62cm.

We know we’re nowhere close to being out of the woods….but as we look around this time, the woods are beautiful. We may as well enjoy our time here as much as possible. 


  1. This is exciting news! Don't be afraid to put it out there. All the hope and promise in those two little heartbeats is a beautiful thing. I am so happy for you guys.

  2. YIPPPPPPPPPPEEEEEEEE! That is fantastic news!

  3. Walking that delicate line between guarding your heart and hope isn't easy. Thank you so much for writing about your caution about sharing this information and how emotional this process is for people. It really helps to know that we're not alone in these feelings. I am so glad to hear that Righty and Lefty are doing well. We call our twins "Theo and Cally" and like you we're trying hard to enjoy this time.

  4. Wow, twins! Was this a complete surprise or did you see two sacs on the last scan? At any rate, love these kinds of surprises! Your last paragraph reminds me of the Frost poem. Miles to go before you sleep.....

    Congrats guys. Enjoy it all.

  5. Congrats guys. Wonderful news. Crossing my fingers for a smooth journey, and hopefully soon you will have two bundles of joys in your arms :)

  6. This journey is such a its such a mixed bag of emotions, my motto these day is just go with it, whatever you feel, whether it be happy, crazy or sad and all 3 all at once, on this journey, its all normal.
    Congrats on your precious gifts.